It’s Not Just the Grief

It’s Not Just the Grief

I agree it’s the degree of relationship that determines the level of grief, however, I’ve lost my mom, my dad and my husband and I can tell you that the loss of my husband was completely life altering and devastating. Where my mom's and my dad's deaths were not...

Thanksgiving: Open Table

Thanksgiving: Open Table

We're okay today, the first Thanksgiving without our beloved Howard. The kids are gaming and sleeping. I'm making a traditional meal, because I want the smells. We'll eat on it throughout the day. No sit-down. I'm thinking about the future, though. A friend had...

Butterflies and Coins

Butterflies and Coins

My late husband Howard picked up coins. Pennies, nickels, dimes and quarters would appear in his path, and he always, and I mean always, stopped to pick them up. Stooping down from a height of 6’4” was no easy feat, with football knees and medically flat feet, but he...

The Days After

The Days After

A widow named Melody on one of my groups states the mood perfectly: Her wedding day wasn't the best day of her life, it was the start of many best days. Likewise, the day her beloved died wasn't the worst day of her life, it's in living the days after, as the pain...

A Heart of Charity

A Heart of Charity

A Florida police department recently faced backlash on social media after asking for the community’s help in identifying a man who stole diapers and baby wipes from a Walmart after two of his credit cards were declined. Many commenters said that they would have gladly...

God is my Guide

God is my Guide

From my devotion this morning: "Should I face a mighty mountain or a valley dark and deep; The shepherd of my soul will be my guide." Grief feels like both. It's a mountain to climb, and a trek through a dark valley. Some moments I'm struggling to get up the path,...

Life is Short. Use the Crystal.

Life is Short. Use the Crystal.

When my beloved died last month, that was the end of our earthly celebrations. There were no more special occasions to bring out our Millennium Series Waterford flutes we'd gotten for our wedding in 2000. I've sipped many glasses of champagne in them over our 20+...

Bittersweet Realities

Bittersweet Realities

Yesterday was a bittersweet day. I sold our RV trailer. This is the reality of what happens when a spouse dies. This is what you don't think about when together you're planning burial wishes and buying life insurance. You don't think about the treasured things that...

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