Ghosting, or not showing up for interviews or the first day of work, is a modern workforce problem. I hear it all the time from my friends who still own businesses with employees: “no shows” for interviews and even newly hired employees is irking employers.

With the lowest unemployment rate in 20 years–currently at 3.8%–candidates are receiving multiple offers and being selective with their choices. They’ll accept two or three, and then decide at the last minute which one to take. They assume their absence is a clear indication that they no longer want the job.

They would be wrong.

One friend said, “It’s just rude. I have a business to run and they don’t show up for their first day of work. I don’t know what to do, I’ve planned for them to be there. I need to fill this position.”

The other side of the coin is that when the unemployment rate was up, HR departments or individual employers would often use “no contact” as a way to inform candidates they wouldn’t be continuing in the hiring process. Rude, yes, but acceptable. Now the pendulum has swung the other way, and employees are in the cat bird seat, they hold the power.

I believe a healthy amount of respect is needed from both parties, employer and employee. Perhaps we don’t have to resort to linen paper correspondence formality, but we do have communicate with each other.

As a business owner, I would always let a candidate know they weren’t getting a second interview, or weren’t selected for the job. It’s not a fun phone call to make, but it’s an important one. Communication is vital. As is, decorum. If an employee spends their workday wearing earbuds, are they engaged in their job, or just passing time?

I wrote this a year before I sold my sign and graphic business:

“Listen, Millennials, I hire you. I like working with you. I love your enthusiasm and energy, and your fresh perspective! However, when you don’t show up for work for days without contacting me, your employer, I’m sorry, I have to fire you. And when you bring a space heater to work without my permission, I see that as a fire hazard for my building filled with tens of thousands of dollars of my equipment. (No, I’m not Scrooge, I do run the heat, it’s just that if you choose to wear sandals in November…hmmm.). And when you tell me that I have to tell another employee to stop eating a certain way, I see that as a sign of immaturity on your part. Look, you are valuable in the workforce, but please, be mindful of your employer and other coworkers. You have much to offer, but you need to adopt some healthy respect and you’ll do great!”

I love the vitality that young people bring to an organization, but they need to understand they need to keep learning. It never stops, through education and observation, a successful person is constantly improving, learning and growing.

“The key to success is dedication to life-long learning.” ~ Stephen Covey